5 Tips for Building Self-Trust

I was standing under a waterfall in Ghana, West Africa. My twists poured down swaying at my hips. My skin was golden. In my super woman pose, I looked to the heavens in agreement. I am perfection. I have everything I need within me.

 Here are my 5 tips for building self-trust.

5 Tips for Building Self-Trust
#5 Forgive Yourself.

Can you trust someone who mistreated you, lied to you, or made poor choices without your best interest in mind? Maybe. But it would take some time to rebuild that trust. The same goes for the relationship that you have with yourself. The definition of trust is firm belief in the reliability, ability, strength and truth in someone or something. You have to forgive yourself and start to rebuild the trust that you have in you.


5 Tips for Building Self-Trust
#4 Determine Who You Want To Be

Many of us don't trust in ourselves because we have no direction. We don't have a plan for our future. Some of us may not even know where to begin. When we are rudderless, we allow other people to draw a map for us.

 You have to start figuring out what type of person you want to be, what type of lifestyle you want to live, and what steps to take in order to get there. Part of building self trust is having a plan for your life that YOU create, and executing that plan one step at a time.

5 Tips for Building Self-Trust
#3 Figure Out What You Like

Describe your perfect dream vacation. What is your favorite way to relax? How do you pamper yourself? If it's hard for you to answer these questions, you should start exploring yourself. Interview yourself. Start a journal that is all about your favorite things. The journey to self discovery is so beautiful. Start it NOW!

5 Tips for Building Self-Trust
#2 Spend Time With Yourself

My elders constantly advise me to date myself. At first I thought they were crazy! Who would go on a date with herself? However, as I matured, I've realized the importance of self dating. When I take myself out, I pick the place and the time. I order exactly what I want, and I am peaceful and comfortable.

Dating myself  gives me uninterrupted time to observe myself, and do something nice for me.

5 Tips for Building Self-Trust
#1 Make Mistakes

The foundation of my self-trust was built on my mistakes. During my 20's, I made just about every mistake that was humanly possible. I dropped out of college three or four times. I had several failed relationships, including one divorce. I had a child out of wedlock. I blew thousands of dollars on frivolous things. I even moved 3,000 miles away from home without a solid plan.

Yet, now that I am in my 30's, I am grateful for the "mistakes" I made. The life lessons that I've learned are priceless. I've finished college twice. I'm currently single, and preparing myself for marriage. I've had no more children out of wedlock. I have thousands of dollars saved up. Six months ago, I moved 2,000 miles away from home; this time I had a plan.

In conclusion, learn yourself, love yourself, make mistakes, and trust yourself. You are the most important person in your life. Everything starts within you.