New Relationship RECAP Month 1: Days 1-30

The Rush/Honeymoon Phase: Our first date was January 23rd. Then we went out again on January 26th. By Valentine's Day, we made it official.

Today: It's March 9th, and we've been together for about one month.

Of course it's still early, but in the beginning we impressed one another with wine and fine dining, the best of our wardrobe, and the best of our behavior.

Days 1-30 RECAP: Things have been slow and steady so far. I've met his family, we've had our first disagreement, and we've crossed the farting barrier (no more holding it in and having stomach pains the next day). At this point, we are starting to shed those superficial layers, and becoming more comfortable with being our complete and true selves. Secret thoughts are being revealed. The first impressions of perfection are fading. We are starting to feel each other out and see if we want to continue for another go round on the love wheel.

Laying the Foundation
We have set relationships goals and started a monthly check-in. Our relationships core values are: communication, respect, honesty, family and intimacy (quality time and physical touch). Our personal relationships goals are: Hers - 1.) Have fun everyday 2.) Self-love 3.) Growth and understanding 4.) Respect 5.) Friendship. His - 1.) Respect 2.) Build wealth 3.) Maintain health 4.) Physical touch 5.) Active listening 6.) Communication.

We must understand and get to know each other's past mistakes, current strengths and weaknesses, and practice self-love in order to give and receive the best kind of love.

Thoughts About the Future
Although we have many differences, he and I are very similar. We have the same sense of humor, value our friends and family, and we are both hard workers. We both also value freedom and independence both in and out of a relationship. We both are a mixture of Capricorn, Aquarius and Sagittarius. That means that we are passionate, independent, controlling and desire stability. I think the next 31-60 days will reveal to us what our relationship will look like down the road. Are we really who we portrayed ourselves to be? Are we really what the other person thought we were? Is it worth it to continue? How will he/she react to death, illness, depression, termination from a job, loss of income?

Things We Should Look Out For
Allowing fear of past relationships to scare us out of this one. Allowing insecurities to cause possessive or controlling behavior. Falling back into old patterns of quitting and not committing. Being self-centered and focusing too much on our independence instead of nurturing our relationship.

The next update will be Month 2: Days 31-60. We'll see where the next 30 days takes us...