Go Down To Child Support
NewsFlash Men: If you have a child with a woman who is not your wife, 9 times out of 10 you will have to pay child support. You can blame the white man, and you can blame the system, but the system and the white man did not force you to have sex with that woman. I cannot have sympathy for a man who has been DNA tested and proven to be the father of a child, but is now complaining about child support.
In my case, I did not "run down to child support" in hopes of getting revenge on my son's father. Because I was receiving government benefits, his child support was court ordered. But even to the women who do maliciously "go down to child support," dude, why are you shocked? In Ohio, if you are not married to the mother of your child/children she automatically is the custodial parent. Half of you brothers haven't even established your rights or filed for joint custody. Yet, you scream woe is me for paying $500 a month in child support.
OK, so you take little Joey to the playground Tuesdays and Thursdays from 4pm-8pm. Oh great, he spends every weekend with you. Wow, you bought him 3 shirts and a gallon of milk last month. Your part-time parenting and weekend babysitting is not enough for you to get forbearance from paying your child support.
I had a conversation last night with a mom who agreed that these men should not pay child support.
She said they should pay nothing more than day care costs. They should pay the mother $10/hour per child for every hour they (the fathers) are not with the child/children. I LIKE IT!! That'll be $240 per day Monday-Thursday. Friday $170 and Sunday $60. For me, that would be almost $4760 per month, almost 10 times more than what I'm receiving now. I think boys truly believe that their baby mommas can get rich from child support. When in reality, the child support often times doesn't even cover the cost of rent. Not to mention if he misses a payment.
She can't take the baby downtown and say, "my sons' father missed a payment this month I'll be back to pick up little Joey when I receive payment." NO! Full-time mothers have to figure it out by any means necessary. If little Joey is sick, most likely it is mom who'll have to call off work, find a sitter, take him to the doctor and nurse him back to health. If the sitter or daycare is closed, it is mom who has to figure out who's going to watch him on short notice. Mothers who live with their child/children usually endure the most stress.
We have to make things work no matter what, we have to figure it out and make a way without crying or complaining. And you wonder why we refer to ourselves as strong black women who don't need any help. HELP ME THEN! Be more than a 3-day dad. And for those men who can't see their kids when they want and say the baby momma is crazy GO GET YOUR RIGHTS! And most importantly, STOP HAVING SEX WITH ANY WOMAN WITH A BIG BUTT AND A PRETTY SMILE!
Guys these days want so much respect and adoration, they want to be seen as "the man." Well sir, being a man requires much more than having a penis. There are universal laws, that when broken, bring consequences. Should you have a child out of wedlock with a woman you barely even know, there will be repercussions. Being a man takes a lot of responsibility, accountability and wisdom.
When a boy becomes a man he realizes that he holds the power. He starts thinking situations through before he makes a move. He prepares for the worst, and in the event that the worst case scenario does happen, he finds solutions. He doesn't blame others for his bad choices and mistakes. A real man has self control and discipline. But once again, if he makes a mistake he owns up to it. A lot of these dudes hate the system and say it's unfair. Umm sir, did you research this system that you hate so much before you had sex with Gina from down the way?
If you did, then you would know that the system is in favor of the mother. Unless she is plum crazy or on drugs she'll be awarded custody and get child support. Why? Because the man is supposed to be the leader, the head of the household and the provider. The man has the power. You can try to put the blame on the woman for "opening her legs" but dear sir, you have the semen. You have the choice of planting the seed or not.
When a man is unaware of his worth and his power in this Universe of course he won't take heed to it. It's scary knowing you hold the key to life. In the Bible man was created first. The man is the hunter, the head, the protector. That's a huge responsibility that many men are unwilling to accept. So men, brothers, kings, fathers, know your worth, know your power, and understand your divinity.
There is no such thing as perfection. Mistakes happen. But there is only one way to conceive a child and that is by having sexual intercourse with or without a condom. With or without birth control. Don't try to tell me that the woman lied and said she was on birth control so it's her fault. Don't sit here and say she told you she didn't want to use a condom so you didn't bother to put one on. Excuses and BS Little boy. A man goes into a situation weighing all the possible outcomes and he is accountable no matter what.
For example, a man sees a pretty girl he is attracted to. Naturally he may have some intimate thoughts about her. But once the fantasies slip through his mind, he begins to think LOGICALLY. If I sleep with her she could get pregnant. If she gets pregnant she could have an abortion. If she doesn't have an abortion I'll have a child with this lady I don't even know or love. When she has the child she may want to be with me. If I don't want to be with her she could take me down to child support and the system will control my money for the next 20 years. Yes she's fine, but I'll pass.
Fellas you have much more power and control in this world than you know. Stop getting caught up. Look deep before you leap. Protect yourself first. If that means not having sex with a woman then don't do it! Is 2 minutes of pleasure worth a lifetime of pain, resentment and hostility? Man up. Get your joint custody, pay your child support on time, respect the mother of your child, spend more time with your kids.
When we don't follow the blueprint of the family structure there is a price to pay.
Life isn't fair, but blaming others and making excuses won't change the game.
Every pretty field doesn't deserve your precious seeds.
In my case, I did not "run down to child support" in hopes of getting revenge on my son's father. Because I was receiving government benefits, his child support was court ordered. But even to the women who do maliciously "go down to child support," dude, why are you shocked? In Ohio, if you are not married to the mother of your child/children she automatically is the custodial parent. Half of you brothers haven't even established your rights or filed for joint custody. Yet, you scream woe is me for paying $500 a month in child support.
OK, so you take little Joey to the playground Tuesdays and Thursdays from 4pm-8pm. Oh great, he spends every weekend with you. Wow, you bought him 3 shirts and a gallon of milk last month. Your part-time parenting and weekend babysitting is not enough for you to get forbearance from paying your child support.
I had a conversation last night with a mom who agreed that these men should not pay child support.
She said they should pay nothing more than day care costs. They should pay the mother $10/hour per child for every hour they (the fathers) are not with the child/children. I LIKE IT!! That'll be $240 per day Monday-Thursday. Friday $170 and Sunday $60. For me, that would be almost $4760 per month, almost 10 times more than what I'm receiving now. I think boys truly believe that their baby mommas can get rich from child support. When in reality, the child support often times doesn't even cover the cost of rent. Not to mention if he misses a payment.
She can't take the baby downtown and say, "my sons' father missed a payment this month I'll be back to pick up little Joey when I receive payment." NO! Full-time mothers have to figure it out by any means necessary. If little Joey is sick, most likely it is mom who'll have to call off work, find a sitter, take him to the doctor and nurse him back to health. If the sitter or daycare is closed, it is mom who has to figure out who's going to watch him on short notice. Mothers who live with their child/children usually endure the most stress.
We have to make things work no matter what, we have to figure it out and make a way without crying or complaining. And you wonder why we refer to ourselves as strong black women who don't need any help. HELP ME THEN! Be more than a 3-day dad. And for those men who can't see their kids when they want and say the baby momma is crazy GO GET YOUR RIGHTS! And most importantly, STOP HAVING SEX WITH ANY WOMAN WITH A BIG BUTT AND A PRETTY SMILE!
Guys these days want so much respect and adoration, they want to be seen as "the man." Well sir, being a man requires much more than having a penis. There are universal laws, that when broken, bring consequences. Should you have a child out of wedlock with a woman you barely even know, there will be repercussions. Being a man takes a lot of responsibility, accountability and wisdom.
When a boy becomes a man he realizes that he holds the power. He starts thinking situations through before he makes a move. He prepares for the worst, and in the event that the worst case scenario does happen, he finds solutions. He doesn't blame others for his bad choices and mistakes. A real man has self control and discipline. But once again, if he makes a mistake he owns up to it. A lot of these dudes hate the system and say it's unfair. Umm sir, did you research this system that you hate so much before you had sex with Gina from down the way?
If you did, then you would know that the system is in favor of the mother. Unless she is plum crazy or on drugs she'll be awarded custody and get child support. Why? Because the man is supposed to be the leader, the head of the household and the provider. The man has the power. You can try to put the blame on the woman for "opening her legs" but dear sir, you have the semen. You have the choice of planting the seed or not.
When a man is unaware of his worth and his power in this Universe of course he won't take heed to it. It's scary knowing you hold the key to life. In the Bible man was created first. The man is the hunter, the head, the protector. That's a huge responsibility that many men are unwilling to accept. So men, brothers, kings, fathers, know your worth, know your power, and understand your divinity.
There is no such thing as perfection. Mistakes happen. But there is only one way to conceive a child and that is by having sexual intercourse with or without a condom. With or without birth control. Don't try to tell me that the woman lied and said she was on birth control so it's her fault. Don't sit here and say she told you she didn't want to use a condom so you didn't bother to put one on. Excuses and BS Little boy. A man goes into a situation weighing all the possible outcomes and he is accountable no matter what.
For example, a man sees a pretty girl he is attracted to. Naturally he may have some intimate thoughts about her. But once the fantasies slip through his mind, he begins to think LOGICALLY. If I sleep with her she could get pregnant. If she gets pregnant she could have an abortion. If she doesn't have an abortion I'll have a child with this lady I don't even know or love. When she has the child she may want to be with me. If I don't want to be with her she could take me down to child support and the system will control my money for the next 20 years. Yes she's fine, but I'll pass.
Fellas you have much more power and control in this world than you know. Stop getting caught up. Look deep before you leap. Protect yourself first. If that means not having sex with a woman then don't do it! Is 2 minutes of pleasure worth a lifetime of pain, resentment and hostility? Man up. Get your joint custody, pay your child support on time, respect the mother of your child, spend more time with your kids.
When we don't follow the blueprint of the family structure there is a price to pay.
Life isn't fair, but blaming others and making excuses won't change the game.
Every pretty field doesn't deserve your precious seeds.
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